Between Surrogacy & Adoption,which is a better choice?

I think the typical Nigerian man believes in one myth or another.Most of us grew up saddled with them...indeed the bane of our childhood.The myth that echoed throughout my ''wonder years'' is  what I call the ''Owerri myth''..about ''ukwu nwanyi Owerri''...losely translates to the famed hips of an Owerri woman.Women from Owerri are generally believed to be promiscuous hence the phrase.It is not advisable for a bachelor to thread in Owerri soil  in search of a nubile maiden as he will get lost in her allure and may not find his way home :)

Myths are part of our culture. We cannot hide from them and they to a large extent inform most of our unconscious decisions.

The myth of child adoption in Nigeria was greatly mistrusted and considered unacceptable to  a lot people in the past. Imagine adopting a child that did not come from your loins???Unheard of or probably a practical joke.This myth has gradually become acceptable as it has led to another belief; open doors to fertility.When a couple adopts and genuinely loves the child as theirs then that sincere love will spring forth your own very children. A lot of this has happened to countless couples who have adopted.
People no longer hide behind this taboo and openly confess to adoption,after all a child is a child and should be loved regardless of the womb that carried it.

Gestational Surrogacy has its share of beliefs too.A lot of celebrities have used this option though some are shrouded in secrecy,a typical example is Beyonce,am yet to see anyone that truly believes she was pregnant for even a second,made worse by the fact that she has gone out of her way prove her ''innocence''

Is gestational surrogacy a thing of shame?misunderstood?unhealthy?a taboo?

Elizabeth Banks hilariously played a pregnant mama in What to Expect When You're Expecting, but in real life Banks never had the opportunity to carry a baby to term, explaining  to Lucky magazine that "embryos wouldn't implant" in her womb. Although she admitted that turning to a surrogate was "a big leap," it was ultimately the right choice."So once my focus became the baby and not the pregnancy, it was a very easy decision."
On November 14, 2012, Banks announced that she and husband Max Handelman welcomed another son, Magnus Mitchell Handelman, into their family, also via gestational surrogate.

IVF is a common and generally accepted option by most couples struggling to have a baby but it takes a lot of excruciating toll on the woman in particular, both emotionally and physically and offers no guarantees.

I understand surrogacy is being welcomed in a place like Lagos and can cost up to N8m.

Almost every surrogacy procedure is a gestational surrogacy procedure. In this type, a surrogate carries a child that was conceived using eggs and sperm from a couple or from donor eggs and sperm.

In traditional surrogacy the surrogate carrier’s own egg is used and combined with sperm from the male partner through intrauterine insemination (IUI) or in vitro fertilization (IVF). In this case, the surrogate is biologically related to the child.

 Gestational surrogacy is considered less risky since the child she is carrying is not biologically related.

To protect the rights of all parties, a contract must be drawn up before beginning the surrogacy process. The couple will pay the surrogate a fee that is agreed upon before the procedure begins.

The ideal surrogate has had her own child or children and should be an adult. Using a surrogate that has had a child shows she is capable of carrying a child to term and lessens the chances of the surrogate becoming emotionally attached to the child. In order to find a surrogate, many couples consult fertility clinics, websites, lawyers, or other agencies.

Between surrogacy & adoption which is a better  option? 
Methinks adoption is cheaper and gives a child hope for a better future..What do you think?