Do You Know The Biggest Threats To Your Marriage?

1. Sex

Sex is one of the most awkward discussions to have between two people, but it is one of the biggest sources of contention between two married people. Frequency, style and monogamy are the most common issues discussed regarding sex. The discussions surrounding these issues include:

• Frequency. Sure, couples may be having pre-marital sex, but things change when two people live together. People get tired, fail to communicate their preferences or struggle with different libidos. When couples cannot get the frequency of their sex lives together, it affects the marriage. This is one of the main reasons why fidelity is an issue in marriage.
• Style. How people enjoy sex is another point of contention. One partner’s sexual style may deter the other partner from wanting to participate. Sexual style is an awkward conversation, but the discussion can prevent future conflicts.
• Monogamy. Most people get married to have a monogamous relationship, but some couples advocate open marriages. This should be discussed prior to the wedding. When people have different expectations of marriage, this can cause a significant rift.

2. Finances

Finances are difficult. If one spouse is a spendthrift, and the other spouse is a saver, conflict may arise. Finances are one of the most common reasons for divorce. To prevent divorce, couples must agree on who will work in the family, how often and who will manage the finances. Financial goals must be established to avoid conflict regarding how money should be spent and managed in the marriage.

3. Conflict Resolution

How will the couple handle conflict? There must be a plan for handling conflict in the marriage. Whether discussing the number of kids desired or how to split household chores, there must be rules of engagement. Proper conflict resolution will help couples stay out of divorce court. Determine how to discuss fairly to prevent ineffective arguments that do not lead to a positive outcome.

What other issue do you think may constitute a threat to your marriage?

Karl Nolan