The Simple Key to Your Happiness

 

For a happy life, pleasure your wife. Her bedroom bliss may predict your happiness, according to a new study in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy.

When researchers interviewed married couples to gauge the impact intimacy had on their relationship, they discovered that husbands reported higher levels of relationship satisfaction when their wives were sexually satisfied.

The reason: Many men have a sense that their main job in the relationship is to satisfy their wives sexually, says study author Suzanne Bartle-Haring, Ph.D, director of the Couple and Family Therapy Program at Ohio State University.

Of course, sexual satisfaction isn’t solely based on whether or not she climaxes. Pleasing her between the sheets—and leaving her coming back for more—is also about the quality of foreplay, duration and frequency of sex, as well as whether or not couples try new things, Bartle-Haring explains.

Your move: Experiment with new sensations by testing out a sex therapy technique called "sensate focus."

Ask your partner to lie flat on her back with her eyes closed, and slowly caress her head and face—hair, nose, ears, lips; cover it all. Make your down her body until you reach her feet, then flip her over and repeat.
The point is to explore new erotic territory. "The genitals, breasts, and inner thighs have the most nerve receptors, so they're most sensitive," says social psychologist Justin Lehmiller, Ph.D. "But almost any body part can become erotic if you learn to associate it with sexual pleasure."

What’s more, research shows touch is a woman's primary trigger for desire. So by using this move before the two of you get busy, you’re able to ignite her passion and shape new erogenous zones. 













Kristen Domonell