How do you keep the emotional love tank full in marriage?
Divorce rate in Nigeria is fast paced and keeps rising.Whether its as a result of Hollywood ''copy cat scenarios'' or women liberation or societal pressure is really a mystery,aside from abuse in marriage.
Who knows the secret to a long lasting marriage that will surpass the 10 year threshold?
Again and again I have heard the words like:
''Our love is gone,our relationship is dead''
''Love isn't enough''
''We dont talk anymore,we have drifted apart''
''We no longer enjoy being with each other''
''We dont meet each others needs''
''We used to feel quite close but not anymore''
The list goes on and on.....
But methinks there is an underlying factor here....the love tank is empty or half full..
What can take the couple the whole haul...I hear if you make it in 10years then your home and dry....
What is the secret to happiness and long lasting marriage that will greatly reduce divorce rate in our culture so that kids can have the love of both parents under one roof rather than a dysfunctional upbringing?
Our parents must have done something differently and right surely.
Any clues to this secret?
A lot of our men would rather remain boys than men to live up to their responsibilities. It is in dis modern day and age u find d man being too busy to have time for his family meanwhile he is cheating wit anoda woman giving all d time. He comes home too tired to see how pretty his wife is and doesnt even feel d responsibility to make love to her but sees it as a burden. Wives r equally busy chasing money and neglecting their womanly duties. The world is just coming to an end or maybe simply cursed.
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ReplyDeleteWell I think it takes work on both end..... Nothin gd comes easy! A lot of us get married for the wrong reasons and not willing to do the work to make it happen! No communication, which is a big deal! It worked out great for our parents cos quiting wasn't an option.....more than anything a lot of couples r not friends in their marriage! Too many friends , family get involved , people talking...... Too many people don't like to see happy marriages.... Most of all most homes isn't centered around GOD! Being inlove isn't enough to hold a home...
ReplyDeleteIts takes constant oiling and refilling the love tank.its easy to get into rut cos of routine and kids but must both be committed to mke it work and call it each bck on track if u loose ur way.rmb its a partnership.submit to ur husband.women now have misplaced priorities cos of dir career.praying together does wonders too.
ReplyDeletePpls go to sleep when they marry and expect the fairy godmother to oil it for them and she does in the form of an "intruder" or "outsider"and then we weep...fight back or walk away.its easier to walk away rhese days forgetting the effect on the kids.sad
ReplyDeleteFirst of all the marriage needs to have a love tank :D
ReplyDeleteOur parents married for luv, a lot of us marry bc odas are marrying. I heard of a girl 20yrs, who gt married to a man of abt 40yrs. She is now 26yrs wit 4 kids and she has left d marriage wit d exccuse dat she can't do it again! Methinks dat we have lost d values. A lot of us ladies now tink dat career is more important dan our home, our mothers respected dia husbands and cared for them, we r barely there to do d least like give him food bc d help is there. Ask most of our ladies how many cook breakfast for dis husbands? Its pathetic bc if such a man shd gt just alittle of wat he lacks at home outside, he is gone. Likewise men, our fathers pride were dia wives, they did everyting to make them special, but we find men today as soon as u r married, they forget all d tings they did while trying to gt u, now it becomes boring.
ReplyDeleteGood marriages don't come served on a platter,you work at making great cos nothing good comes easy.Yo must have the right mind set and determination for it to work
ReplyDeletebe fully committed.Share things you both love,try not fall into a love rut,it takes away the flame.talk.
ReplyDeleteTo remain successfully married in love, speak the love language of your partner whom would naturally reciprocate the gesture.
ReplyDeleteGive as much as you'd expect to receive and remember to give God a place in your relationship.
If u luv God,u can luv anybody talk less of ur partner.
ReplyDeleteRead cor 13,it explains exactly what real luv is all about. Practice it in ur marriage & ur life.
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