''If a man wants you nothing can keep him away''- Oprah Winfrey

 What Oprah has to say about men:

1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay. {TO ME:  and that no matter how much effort you exert  no matter how much tears you shed, and no matter how hurt you can bring yourself into it won’t change. To them it is important to make firm decisions.}
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. { TO ME: Women have the tendency to deny what they see wrong from their partners – hoping that he will change along the way. ‘Guess we gotta prove that we really have what they call women’s instinct – and for what I believe – its true when they say it’s true almost all the time }
3. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be. Slower is better.
4. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. { For 3&4 : If you do, you’ll realize that you end up leaving your true self behind. }
5. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends”. A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend. Don’t settle. { So true! }
6. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
7. Don’t stay because you think “it will get better” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. { To me: worse is you’ll realize you are not the person you were suppose to be. }
8. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. { I’ve read one article  that said, “you can never expect someone to love you the way you want. Don’t expect your partner to love you the same way you love him/her }
9. Avoid men who’ve got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? { If he can’t stand a relationship by rejecting a poor angel from the past, then maybe he doesn’t really know what heaven is. }
10. Always have your own set of friends separate from his. { True, so you have people to run to when your world turns upside down }
11. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. { To me:  It was a big mistake to keep everything to myself. Never think that being silent is a way to stay away from trouble. }
12. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. { To me: They are good in putting the blame to others. }
13. You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within. { Let them go, if they want to come  back – let them realize it from within them. }
14. Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are. Even if he has more education or in a better job. { One thing I will never forget is when he started to question my job – my job that kept us sustained for the past years.Sometimes girls think we need to keep the guys’ morale, but sometimes it’s more suitable that we keep the level at the safe place. }
15. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. { They abuse women’s feeling. }
16. Never borrow someone else’s man. { I told myself. I don’t see myself being with someone married or in a relationship. I knew how it felt to be betrayed, I will never make other woman feel the same way. }
17. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. { Sometimes, it’s us, women who give them the go signal to abuse our weakness. }
18. All men are NOT dogs. { Men are not good in following instructions, remember the term “EGO”. }
19. You should not be the one doing all the bending. Compromise is two-way street. { Some men think they are superior in the relationship. }
20. You need time to heal between relationships. There is nothing cute about baggage. Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
{ True, true, true! }
21. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. A relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals. Look for someone complimentary not supplementary. { Oftentimes, we think that we look for someone who have few similarities with our own disposition in life. It doesn’t work all the time. }
22. Make him miss you sometimes. When a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him – he takes it for granted. {  Never be the convenient girlfriend –  let him pursue you in his own way. }
23. Never move into his mother’s house. Never co-sign for a man. { One good thing. It’s not that you disrespect the mother if you do this but gives your man clearer view of what he is getting himself into. Like the bible says:  It’s when then the guy marries a woman when he leaves his parents and create his own family. }
24. You should know that you’re the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he’ll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he’s not the only one. They’re all watching you and you want more .. so you have a lot of choices. Make the right one. { Don’t enclose yourself to the thought that you will never find another man. }
25. Ladies take care of your own hearts. { No one else knows the way your heart inside, but you. You are the only one who can tell your limitations and how far you can extend your capabilities. Stretch you wings and be beautiful. }