Will Smith's wife writes on her Facebook page
Should I stay with a mate after she or he has cheated on me? (This is not referring to habitual cheaters. That is a different matter.)
This is a very personal choice, and there is no right or wrong answer. If your partner is remorseful and is willing to work it out, I would suggest trying to look at it from this vantage point. My observation has been that when most people cheat, they are trying to solve a problem. They are usually in some kind of emotional trouble or confusion that they believed the cheating would relieve. What's interesting is that most of the time the cheating has nothing to do with YOU. Now the question becomes, are you willing to put all ego aside and reach for some deep compassion to try to figure out what the trouble is, and, as partners, try to solve it? Know this, if someone has cheated on you who truly loves you, they have hurt themselves as much as they have hurt you. This makes for a great opportunity to deepen the relationship with thorough honesty, which creates deeper respect with some serious setting of boundaries. This is also when love gets real and true and illuminates what you are made of as a couple and as individuals. Situations like these could be the windows to a deeper commitment OR... to two separate paths on the way to look for new partners. Only the unique nature of your specific relationship can be the telling factor.
Is he or she worth it?
Do you agree with her?
I don't agree that when ur mate cheats it has nothing to do with you. Its not true in most cases cos they r trying to satisfy a need which they assume u can't give & they can get elsewhere. Working it out I agree is a matter of choice if he's not a habitual cheater!
ReplyDeleteI agree with Bumi. Most of the time ur patner wrongly assumes ur not enough which leads to cheating.
ReplyDeleteShe shd change tht statement to "7chances" cos most men cheat n cheat n cheat....rubbish!one is euff after dat kick hs ass!
ReplyDeleteI agree that a cheat deserves a second chance. We forgive so that we maybe be forgiven. For me no one is perfect. Truth is all men are dogs and it only takes a "godly" man/woman not to cheat on his/her partner. If I may ask what is the definiton of cheating? If a man looks lustfully at a woman, it is cheating. If he is addicted to porn, it is still cheating. So there are so many levels of cheating and for me cheating is cheating. When the cheating becomes habitual then the individual needs God's intervention and serious deliverance.
ReplyDeleteThank u@anon 16.21.cheatin isn't jst abt hvn sex ppl also cheat emotionally too..I dunno abt forgn a habtual cheat it cnt be ezzy unless a true christian, but the cheat luvs his or her partner the person shd work on it
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