A friend says its psychotic, unrealistic and ''Non-Nigerian'' to have a small and exclusive wedding in Nigeria. Shouldn't personal choice come before tradition?
She says you will only end up making enemies out of your friends by not having a ''big'' wedding that will accommodate all your friends. It is alien to our culture and most people are not for it. Who and who would be on the guest list and who will be axed? your colleagues, numerous childhood friends, plus new friends, countless relatives, special VIP guests and of course the village representatives? The list is exhausting and endless.
With big weddings the groom has to form a committee of friends and the only agenda is ''fund raising''.- it takes it toll on both your pocket and also strains emotions . Should you end up bankrupt or borrow money to have the wedding of your dreams or sleep better by ''cutting your cloth to your pocket size''?
How can you strike a balance between pleasing others and not making enemies over having the wedding you can afford albeit a small wedding which also happens to be your preference?
I think weddings should be memorable, beautiful and pocket-friendly, big or small. :-)
Small or Big wedding, which is better?
I would love to read your comment on this issue. Kindly share your thoughts.
We love to do things in a 'big' way in Nigeria. You finally get the chance to show people how well heeled you are by having a bigger wedding than your neighbour. No to small weddings. Lol.
ReplyDeleteI'm a ''victim'' of the so called big weddings and frankly it was all about pleasing my in laws cos I'm a private person and would have preferred something small and classy rather inviting every tom, dick and harry including your frenemies. The truth no matter how bigggg ur wedding is ppl will definitely talk and criticize, trust me on that!
ReplyDeleteIt's a taboo to have a small wedding in naija oooo....abi u no wan ppl to spray money so you can recoup ur expenses with the N10 notes they will throw in ur face?lol....small weddings are gradually coming round here...na small small..even small dey cost too...its about choice but its a hard sell cos the couple's family also have a say.
ReplyDeleteI ve seen a relationship break up cos the strain of wedding prep..
ReplyDeleteThe point is who judges its a big wedding or a small wedding? These are relative terms! A wedding(at least in Africa) is a social affair! It's one of the celebrations that class don't matter! U could be very rich and have villagers come n celebrate you..ur success, ur wedding, ur story! It is then u hear things like I didn't know Okeke had a daughter this grown. It is communal living! In an age where we no longer know our neighbours, we should not encourage trends that limit the opportunities for this to happen. Even when Jesus turned water to wine, it was a communal feast!!
ReplyDeleteAm all for big weddings oo cos its like. Reunion of friends and family nd. Good opportunity to see ppl u vnt seen in ages and m against borrowing or formin friends commitee to raise funds-cut ur cloth according to ur pocket.period.rather bin in misery afterwards and paying off debts.that's why I aint marrying a poor man cos am gonna ve a big classy talk of the town weddin
ReplyDeleteIt should be the coupleks decision on what type of wedding to have....I'm a very private person so I'm all for it:)
ReplyDeleteI kno il hate to be excluded from a friend's wedding. Not nice at all. Weddings are family nd friends affair and dese groups mostimes are large. If ur pocket is too small,cut down on some tins ul do esp d ones dat are not useful after d wedding eg cards,hall,etcdont waste money but pls invite me. Cook gud food too. Unforgetable.
ReplyDeleteLol@anon9.24..correct!u like food oo
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