I will start with a story about a young lady called Ihuoma.
She's married (traditional rites) to a man that can only get a kick out of beating her to a pulp, they fight at home, in the streets, inside their church where they worship, their fights are legendary. And yet Ihuoma refuses to leave him, she prefers to stay put and be beat up. She has lost count of the number of miscarriages she has gone through. Her parents are tired of dragging her home because she will only run back to the man after he comes back each time begging and weeping, calling himself a ''changed man''. It's become a vicious circle. Ihuoma caters for the man, he lives off her and that doesnt make things any better for her, so you can call it a win-win situation for the man.
I still can not figure out why abused women don't leave their abuser, I can only hazard some shaky guesses.
Someone states firmly that Ihuoma's abuser is a product of a vicious upbringing. Most likely he was raised in a violent home and doesn't know any better, he can not help himself.
If a child is brought up in a home filled with love or hate, will the child end up well rounded or emotionally deficient as the case may be?
If a parent or both parents have a bad or violent temper will their children be influenced by being bad tempered parents?
What if a woman is raised in a loving home and marries a man that lacked that kind of upbringing, what kind of home will the couple have?
I would like to know how or if a child's behavior is influenced by their parents emotional disposition.
What's your take?
Amwaltzin! U sabi right o! Na ur talent in short!I throway salute!
ReplyDeleteMe too oo!I like this write up my dear, and yes I believe they way a child is brought influences one's parenting consciously or unconsciously,its important to make a strong effort to weed out the bad from inside with the support of a loving spouse and prayers.
ReplyDeleteChildren pick up strong vibes or vices and can shape their personlity in the long run.
ReplyDeleteProverbs 22:6 ..."train up a child in the way he should go and when he is grown, he cannot depart from it".
ReplyDeleteThe significance and impact of parental training on a child's overall character is high, however as an adult we choose what becomes of us.
Someone I hold in high regards once said that "excuses are the tools of the incompetent, the emoluments of nothingness and those who use them are not wise"
Blaming your folks for turning out wrongly is lame, we are what we choose to become.
Ordinarily, good parentage ought to beget good up bringing. But it doesn't always follow.I'll prefer to cling to d choices we make determines ultimately d type of parents we become. Therefore in ihuoma to me is a person wt weak xter and defines strength as sternness
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